LIFESTYLE DOING NOTHING HAS THE POTENTIAL TO REVEAL TO US WHO AND WHAT WE ARE, BEYOND THE NEVER-ENDING TASKS WE SET OURSELVES OR THAT ARE SET BY OTHERS. can boost creativity as it activates what neuroscientists call the Default Mode Network (DMN) where new dots are connected and ideas generated. The positives are compelling, its just that we are not on equal footing when it comes to carving out time. Take, for example, trying to balance nothing, with returning to work after maternity leave. My friend Idgie, 30, would have to switch off from care for her son, worries about bills and her new job, family, and friends. Its not impossible but its hard. Sleep is probably the only time Im definitely doing anything near nothing, she says. Instead, I take part in a specific type of doing nothing that fills all new parents with guilt. It turns out parenting and working is a full-on, full-time activity and so in moments where you dont have to do something, your brain is so tired all you can do is mindlessly scroll through social media. Then you feel guilty or anxious for not using that time productively especially if you could have had a much-needed nap instead. Idgie points out that knowing conscious rest would make her life easier doesnt make it more accessible: I know that being on my phone, listening to a podcast or generally keeping my mind occupied probably doesnt count as switching off. But my time is so full of external pressures that I really value the moments where I can occupy my mind and catch up with stuff that Im interested in or care about. Another older woman I spoke to has worked at a gallop for 30 years. Where once she wore her work ethic as a badge of honour, at 53, she knows its vital to carve out some do-nothing time. I am more prone tooverwhelm as they call it now, than I was in my 40s or 30s. But although I know it is good for me, I find it really difficult to actively do nothing. I am programmed to think there is always someone adult child, elderly parent, friend in need or something kitchen cupboard, garden shed, pile of laundry that needs attention. Or, with time on my hands, why I am not learning Spanish or fitting in another exercise class. The search for a way to fit in doing nothing will never have a one-size-fits-all solution life is just too varied and changing for that. However, there are some key ways to carve out active nothingness if you can (as opposed to actively avoiding responsibilities on the one hand or powering through on the other). One way Ross advises is looking at the difference between feeling present or feeling absent. If I choose to do nothing, I become open to how I am, however I am. Whatever I feel, I feel it presently, I am alive to it. Doing nothing to avoid responsibilities wont feel like any one thing in particular. Equally, you should be mindful of your capacity for stress, says Jacobsen, so you can find the balance between ticking off tasks to allow for rest and powering through instead of resting. As humans we only have capacity for a certain amount of stress, she explains. After a certain point, we start to experience distress whether its emotionally, physically or both. Stress tolerance varies from person to person so its worth paying attention to when we think we are nearing our capacity. On top of this, Jacobsen advocates for self-compassion to go along with any dose of doing nothing you can manage, as it can be hard to switch off and often takes effort. For the same reason, seeking the support of others is crucial. Finding small ways to share the burdens within your family or can ease the stress. The demands of life can make doing nothing seem like a fantasy. But a combination of self-compassion and realism could open doors for all of us to have a moment, a real moment to ourselves. 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